Brave Learner Home: October 2021

How do we get our kids to do what we want them to do? What we need them to do? 

To homeschool well, don’t we need a certain number of problems in math, at least a minimal amount of reading each day, and a bit of writing, so we’ll have papers that show their progress? Let’s throw in piano practice, too!

Why is it so hard to get them to do it?

Getting our kids to meet our expectations feels so important in homeschooling! Yet what we often get from them is their reluctance and resistance—mixed in with our own resentment. This is not how we thought homeschooling would look or feel! 

So let’s flip the script and ask instead: What lies beneath our kids’ behavior? 

The secret to answering that question? Considering your child’s perspective! And that’s a powerful way to transform the daily life of your homeschool. 

Your Child’s Perspective!

In our Brave Learner Home Master Class in October, we’ll read parts of Alfie Kohn’s Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason. This will give us a jumping off point to explore ideas for working with our children rather than doing things to them.

Exploring your child’s perspective will help you understand them better, so they can learn more!

Join us for our October Master Class webinar in Brave Learner Home:

  • Your Child’s Perspective – Webinar with Julie Bogart
  • Wednesday, October 20, 2021 7 pm ET

“How we feel about our kids isn’t as important as how they experience those feelings and how they regard the way we treat them.” ― Alfie Kohn


Check out the ways to sign up for a FREE Lifetime Membership to the Brave Learner Home. Join me for our webinar October 20 to learn more about the power of considering your child’s perspective! 


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Self-Expression

Self-Expression

One of the most important parts of your writing program is helping your children find a reason to talk to you. So be present. Pay attention. Give feedback that shows you were listening (don’t shush, control, or revise the output; receive it).

Talk, talk, talk.

The most important part of your writing program is giving your kids a chance to self express in a variety of settings about all kinds of topics. Even the taboo ones, like fart jokes.

Some children are more reluctant to talk. They may be introverts or they may worry that you will find their ideas problematic.

Ways to draw kids into conversation:

Sidle up to your child (while that child is happily engaged) and show interest. Could be a video game, could be while crafting, could be while kicking a soccer ball into a net in the backyard. Be where your thriving child IS and show interest.

Serve a drink and a snack and invite your child to sit with you, just the two of you. If you worry that there will be nothing to discuss, simply be together. No pressure. If you are quiet long enough, the quieter child often finds words to share.

Leave the house. Get in a car and go somewhere. Take a hike, get frappucinos to go and sip them at an outdoor table. Make it a one-on-one date.

Stay up late. Lying on the bed next to your child often draws out words. The dark, the quiet, the undivided attention leaves space for a child to talk.

The goal isn’t to force conversation, but to allow it to bubble up and to be valued.

ONE WARNING: if you allow self-expression, you need to prepare to hear what you didn’t want to hear. Your task is to receive it, not comment on it. Save your private thoughts for a journal.

If you make room for this kind of space-giving conversation-promoting practice, your children will find more words for writing.


This post is originally from Instagram and @juliebravewriter is my account there so come follow along for more conversations like this one!


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Friday Freewrite: Writer’s Block

Friday Freewrite

Write from the perspective of a villain named Writer’s Block, and describe the evil tactics used on unsuspecting writers.

New to freewriting? Check out our online guide


Breaking the Rules

Breaking the Rules

Let go! Declare this week as “getting it wrong on purpose” week. Push boundaries. Break rules. Make messes. Play. Open the space for creativity, not just accuracy. All the teaching you want to do is possible when children know the space is safe for risk-taking.

You can make the mess outside on the deck, if you get the heebie jeebies thinking about glitter embedded in your carpet and velvet chairs. But not all messes are artistic or physical.

For instance, what would happen if you added fractions without finding common denominators first? Can you compare the “wrong” answer to the “right” one using measuring cups and flour? What did you discover? What happens if you bake muffins where you double some ingredients but not others?

Try making a mess of reading. Pick a picture book and start by reading a page in the middle. Or read the last page first. What do you think you know about the story? What can’t you know? Read it straight through now. Now read a picture book backwards—start with the last page and read each page before it until you get to the first page. What was that like?

What other messes can you make? How about a kids’ “Declaration of Independence”? What would your kids put in a declaration like that? What demands would they want to make of you? Can they follow the model of the US Declaration or will they come up with a new model?

How can you turn a beloved fairytale hero into a villain and vice-versa? What storyline changes would need to be made?

What else can they get “wrong”?

How about reinventing punctuation—all their own marks that signify whatever they want to indicate.

  • Maybe they make a squiggle mark that when read means raise an eyebrow.
  • Maybe they put triangles at the end of sentences when they want you to slow down and reread a sentence.
  • Maybe they use a loop to indicate that this word should be shouted.

Breaking the rules means violating the habits of thought we take for granted. One way to promote critical thinking is to violate all your expectations and make a big mess and see how that breaks open new ways of thinking and knowing.


This post is originally from Instagram and @juliebravewriter is my account there so come follow along for more conversations like this one!


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Friday Freewrite: Best Friends?

Friday Freewrite

How would you describe a best friend? And since the word “best” as an adjective means “excelling all others,” is it possible then to have more than one “best” friend? Explain why or why not.

New to freewriting? Check out our online guide