The Wrong Personality?

The Wrong Personality

Have you noticed how easy it is to wish away your chief personality features? Do you think to yourself, “I’m the wrong personality for my temperament”? You might wish for a clean, orderly home in your heart, but your personality style is relaxed Bohemian. Or you are the sort who keeps a ship-shape house, but wish you could relax when your kids make big, creative messes?

Layered on top of the structured versus unstructured selves we bring to homeschool are our memories of school. We compare what we do at home (even when we don’t want to) to what we experienced as children. We react against it (“I’m not doing that!) or we we suffer because of it (“I’m not teaching my kids anything”).

The temptation to overhaul our essential selves is powerful. Advertising everywhere tells us we are one tweak away from being the fantasy person in our heads. We may be able to resist Botox or Coach purses, but the seductress for home educators is any “method” that results in effortless, joyful learning where parents and kids get along all the time.

We hop from one program to the next like frogs on lily pads forgetting to consider which personality is implementing the philosophy!

Let me let you in on a little secret.

There’s no one personality type that is better suited to homeschooling than another.

Let me drill down further.

There’s no one personality type that is better for parenting, loving, nurturing than another.

Every type has its marvelous strengths, and (darn it all) each type has its blind spots and liabilities.

What you and I need to do is to become self aware people—able to recognize when our personalities are creating the hum of happiness and productivity, and when they are sapping the energy from the room and causing pain.

Here’s to being both ourselves and letting go of what isn’t working.

This post is originally from Instagram and @juliebravewriter is my account there so come follow along for more conversations like this one!

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Friday Freewrite: Recipe for the Perfect Day

Friday Freewrite

Create a recipe for the perfect day. List the “ingredients” you’d need and then write “instructions,” describing the day like you would for a cake recipe (for example: stir in 2 cups of sunshine).

New to freewriting? Check out our online guide.

Self-Care is Not Selfish

Julie Bogart

Self-care is intentional.

Self-care is not selfish. Another way to say “self-care” might be: “meeting my own needs.” Your needs will reveal themselves whether you deny them or notice them. Taking your needs seriously enough to meet them is loving and necessary.

It’s also a great model for your children (and your partner).
When they see that you choose to go out with friends once in a while, or take up a new course of study, or need ten minutes to regroup, or that you are more interested in your own life than in regulating theirs, they become aware that they can live that way too.

When you let them know when they hurt you, when you speak up for what you need, when you ask for help, you are teaching the whole family how to care for one another.

You are not the sole designated need-meeter, nor are you responsible to fashion a vision for this family that you single-handedly foist upon or require from everyone.

Your true vocation in the home, in your family, is to be a source of care—for others, but also for self. The symbiosis of these two will create the momentum you need to sustain all kinds of wonderful activities and intimacies for a long time to come.

Self-care is not selfish.

This post is originally from Instagram and @juliebravewriter is my account there so come follow along for more conversations like this one!

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Enchanting Reads Special Offer!

Enchanting Reads

It’s April! 

We’ve got literary enchantment in store for you and your kids.

This is the perfect time for lighthearted read alouds. 

In the process of reading together, you can:

  • naturally engage your children in learning spelling and grammar,
  • discuss writer’s craft, and
  • connect with your children through a shared reading experience.

We’ve curated a selection of books to pair with our Dart, Arrow, and Boomerang literature guides that teach mechanics (spelling, grammar, punctuation, and writing craft).

They’re only $7 per issue until April 30, 2021.

These are perfect titles to read under a shady backyard tree. Practice copywork on clipboards while sprawled on a picnic blanket. Don’t forget the lemonade!


Dart (ages 8 – 10)

Arrow (ages 11 – 12)

Boomerang (ages 13 – 14)

Try a Month of Language Arts!

New to Brave Writer? Planning for next year? Experience our mechanics and literature programs before we reveal the 2021–2022 year-long program book lists on June 1 & 2. 

Living Literature + Writing Mechanics

The Dart, Arrow and Boomerang are our language arts tools (digital guides) that teach

  • grammar,
  • spelling,
  • punctuation,
  • and literary elements

through novels you read aloud! (A la Charlotte Mason)

You’ll have a ready-made month-long language arts program that includes passages for copywork and dictation, as well as detailed notes to help you explain a comma or alliteration!

Don’t forget to grab your guides from the shop!

$7.00 per guide is a STEAL! Snap them up before time runs out.

Have an Enchanting Spring!

Friday Freewrite: Day in the Life of a Kitchen Trashcan

Friday Freewrite

Write about a typical day…from the perspective of the trashcan in your kitchen.

New to freewriting? Check out our online guide.