
[Podcast #288] Opening Pandora’s Box: Social Media, Publishing, and Facebook

Do you ever wonder why publishing feels harder than ever—even for talented writers? In this Brave Writer podcast episode, we unpack:
- the shifting realities of the publishing world,
- the gatekeeping role of social media,
- and how authors are increasingly responsible for their own marketing, platforms, and sales.
We also share a personal story about losing tens of thousands of Facebook followers overnight and how that loss spotlighted the fragile ecosystem of modern author visibility. As always, we advocate for connection over clout and remind you that real growth often happens offline—in living rooms, book clubs, and homeschooling co-ops.
If this conversation resonates with you, share the episode with a friend or leave us a review. Word-of-mouth is still the best algorithm. Listen now for an honest look at the highs and heartbreaks of writing in the digital age.
Show Notes
In the ever-evolving world of publishing, one truth has emerged with startling clarity: writing a good book is no longer enough. Today, publishers are placing their bets on celebrity authors, viral sensations, and social media darlings—often before they even consider the merit of a manuscript.
Traditional publishing once operated on the belief that great writing would be recognized and supported by a team. Editors championed books to the marketing department, and publishers helped authors reach readers. Now, those roles have shifted. Authors are expected to arrive with their own audience—complete with analytics, engagement rates, and short-form video skills.
The platform paradox
This isn’t just frustrating—it’s discouraging. Especially for writers in niche fields like homeschooling or middle-grade fiction, building a sizable platform often means stepping away from the very work that fuels their passion. The time spent crafting thoughtful prose or researching meaningful educational resources is now diverted into reels, hashtags, and follower counts.
We’ve felt this pressure firsthand. After years of cultivating an authentic connection with our community, a recent hacking incident resulted in the loss of tens of thousands of Facebook followers. The response from the platform? Robotic and dismissive. The expectation was clear: rebuild or vanish. But rebuilding isn’t a simple request—it’s a full-time job.
When authors foot the bill
The cost isn’t just emotional. Many authors now fund their own book marketing—sometimes spending the entirety of their advance (or more) just to make a book visible. If that book doesn’t “earn out,” royalties may never arrive.
We hear from parents and aspiring authors who still believe that being picked up by a major publisher guarantees visibility, support, and book sales. But the truth is, publishers often look to the author to provide the customer base, not the other way around.
Why connection still matters
Meanwhile, those who came up in an earlier publishing era remember a time when publicists booked interviews and arranged tours. Today, most authors manage their own events, marketing materials, and outreach. It’s a heavy lift—especially when what we want most is simply to write.
And yet, we’re reminded again and again that genuine connection still matters. In-person book clubs, homeschooling meetups, and podcast conversations remain some of the most meaningful tools for sharing ideas. These are the spaces where content isn’t just consumed—it’s discussed, questioned, and cherished.
The invitation to keep going
If you’re a writer—or nurturing one in your homeschool—we urge you to keep going. The landscape may feel inhospitable, but great writing still matters. You may not know what platform will rise next, or whether your book will ever go viral. But the work is still worth doing. Your voice is worth hearing. Keep writing.
Resources
- Save your spot and join us for a confetti-filled book reveal that kicks off a year of reading, learning, and connection! Sign up here: bravewriter.com/landing/book-reveal
- Purchase Julie’s new book, Help! My Kid Hates Writing!
- Check out Julie’s new author website: juliebogartwriter.com
- Subscribe to Julie’s Substack newsletters: Brave Learning with Julie Bogart and Julie Off Topic
- Try out our Brave Writer Practice Pages
- Learn more about the Brave Writer Literature & Mechanics programs
- Read all Brave Writer class descriptions
- Start a free trial of CTCmath.com to try the math program that’s sure to grab and keep your child’s attention
- Sign up for our Text Message Pod Ring to get podcast updates and more!
- Send us podcast topic ideas by texting us: +1 (833) 947-3684
Connect with Julie
- Instagram: @juliebravewriter
- Threads: @juliebravewriter
- Bluesky: @bravewriter.com
- Facebook: facebook.com/bravewriter
Connect with Melissa
- Website: melissawiley.com
- Substack: melissawiley.substack.com
- Instagram: @melissawileybooks
- Bluesky: @melissawiley.bsky.social
Produced by NOVA
Ending the School Year

Are you the kind of parent who has an end date for homeschool?
Do you ask questions like:
- Can we quit before June?
- Do we have to finish the book?
- When can we go to the pool?
Dribbling to the Finish Line
When we homeschooled, there were no math pages left undone that I wish we had finished. There were no books that I felt we should have read more of. The fact that we sort of dribbled to the end felt appropriate. It wasn’t like one day we’re doing science and the next day we’re at the pool. We simply started going to the pool more and started doing schoolwork less.
There is plenty of time over the summer and into the next year to pick up where you left off. If everybody’s bored and sick of doing homeschool, go to the pool! Maybe go to the pool a little more each day and do a little less of school until the whole script has flipped.
The next thing you know, read aloud time is just a pleasurable activity after lunch or at bedtime, and the pool becomes your primary focus.
It’s okay! You’ve all worked hard. Enjoy summer break!
This post is originally from Instagram and @juliebravewriter is my account there so come follow along for more conversations like this one!
Brave Learning: What if My Kids Don’t Like Poetry Teatime?

Recently on Brave Learning…
What If My Kids Don’t Like Poetry Teatime? [Public]
Here are some fresh ideas.
One of the things I noticed with my own kids was that while routines comfort me, they become redundant and boring to kids. So always feel free to take breaks.
Also, ask your kids for suggestions.
Your kids’ input is vital for a successful home education.
Here are some ideas you might try… [More]
Subscribe to Brave Learning on Substack where we chat, discuss, problem-solve, and create together. Here’s what you can expect: weekly themed content, freewriting prompts, and a podcast for kiddos called Monday Morning Meeting (first 6 are free)!
[Podcast #287] Interesting Conversation with Julie and Melissa

Sometimes, the most meaningful conversations aren’t planned—they unfold.
In this week’s Brave Writer podcast episode, we drop in on an unscripted, delightful catch-up between two close friends. From Julie’s recent retreat at Miraval (complete with clay turtles and 7 a.m. birdwatching) to Melissa’s college days giving prairie nature tours, this episode traces the kinds of stories and reflections that surface when we give ourselves time to notice.
We talk about:
- how naming things builds intimacy,
- the role of repetition in learning (and music!),
- and why modeling beeswax might be the best-kept secret in home education.
There are nods to Charlotte Mason, Lynda Barry, roadrunners, rereading A Room with a View, and a clay plaque that simply says “mama.”
Tune in for a rich, meandering conversation about creativity, nature, grief, and the quiet power of doing something more than once.
Show Notes
There are times when what we need most in a learning journey—or in life—is a moment to pause and share stories. This week, we took a break from the usual format to have a good old-fashioned catch-up conversation. What came out was a thread of experiences that, while varied, all seemed to circle around creativity, observation, and connection.
Clay, Creativity, and the Joy of Unfinished Things
Julie recently returned from a retreat where she spent time working with air-dry clay—not to make anything impressive, but simply to feel it in her hands. She sculpted animals, a cactus, and a little plaque that said “mama.” The freedom to create and destroy, to not worry about outcomes, reminded us how powerful it is for kids to explore art in ephemeral ways. Melissa recalled doing beeswax modeling with her kids and noticing how deeply satisfying it was for her as an adult. The sensory experience, the quiet concentration—it wasn’t about performance, just presence.
Birds, Naming, and Noticing
Julie’s birdwatching walk at the retreat opened up a whole new world. From vermilion flycatchers to quails darting across the path, she was reminded of how naming what we see builds intimacy. Melissa chimed in with her own memories of giving nature tours in college, pointing out burrowing owls on the Colorado prairie. When we know what something is called, it becomes part of our world—and that sense of belonging is at the heart of education.
Repetition, Music, and the Rhythm of Learning
We also reflected on repetition—not as a failure to move forward, but as a vital part of how we learn. Melissa mentioned how we don’t question listening to the same music over and over again, yet sometimes worry when kids reread the same book. But repetition is variation’s dance partner. As Julie recalled from a music history professor: all music is built on repetition and surprise. So is learning.
Wandering with Purpose
Whether it’s drawing while listening to music, observing a single tree across the seasons, or returning to the same book or craft again and again, these quiet practices build a deep well of understanding. They invite us to slow down, to notice, and to return—not just to the activity itself, but to the feelings and connections it evokes. In a world that often urges us to move on to the next thing, there’s something profoundly grounding about staying with what we love a little longer. These are the small, sustaining moments where real learning—and real living—take root.
Resources
- Save your spot and join us for a confetti-filled book reveal that kicks off a year of reading, learning, and connection! Sign up here: bravewriter.com/landing/book-reveal
- Follow Lynda Barry on Instagram: @thenearsightedmonkey
- Purchase Julie’s new book, Help! My Kid Hates Writing!
- Check out Julie’s new author website: juliebogartwriter.com
- Subscribe to Julie’s Substack newsletters: Brave Learning with Julie Bogart and Julie Off Topic
- Find Wishtree in the Brave Writer Bookshop
- Try out our Brave Writer Practice Pages
- Learn more about the Brave Writer Literature & Mechanics programs
- Read all Brave Writer class descriptions
- Start a free trial of CTCmath.com to try the math program that’s sure to grab and keep your child’s attention
- Sign up for our Text Message Pod Ring to get podcast updates and more!
- Send us podcast topic ideas by texting us: +1 (833) 947-3684
Connect with Julie
- Instagram: @juliebravewriter
- Threads: @juliebravewriter
- Bluesky: @bravewriter.com
- Facebook: facebook.com/bravewriter
Connect with Melissa
- Website: melissawiley.com
- Substack: melissawiley.substack.com
- Instagram: @melissawileybooks
- Bluesky: @melissawiley.bsky.social
Produced by NOVA
You’re Just Tired

You’re not tired of teaching or your kids or your home.
You’re just tired.
You’ve got bedwetters, breastfeeders, night terrors, pin worms, teething, insomnia, thunder claps, fevers, bronchial infections, and more wrecking your sleep—sometimes for years.
Get some sleep.
- Swap with your spouse or partner.
- Bring in grandma or grandpa.
- Hire a babysitter.
Find a way to protect a night or two of undisturbed slumber.
The house-cleaning can wait. The laundry can be worn mildly dirty. What cannot wait is sleep. It is the chief anti-depressant, it’s free, and you deserve it.
If you are running on empty or are long past empty, it may be worth it to go away alone for a weekend (bring the nursing baby and no one else). Restore your mind, energize your body, revive.
Make no life decisions while sleep-deprived. Get rest. Then re-evaluate. Your kids will seem less irritating once you feel rested. Promise. I’m heading to bed early tonight. Hope you can too.
This post is originally from Instagram and @juliebravewriter is my account there so come follow along for more conversations like this one!