Relieve Pressure or Offer Support

Relieve Pressure or Offer Support

We have two options when our kids struggle: to relieve the pressure to perform—taking a break, slowing down, lowering expectations; or to offer support—partnering with the child, trying a new strategy, providing more resources.

Most of us have a natural response to struggle—to back away or to push through. Our kids get to know our default practices. Sometimes what worked before stops working—the child needs a fresh approach. For instance a child who keeps backing away from challenge may benefit from your strength to say: “You can do it! I’m here to help.”
Whereas if your child is used to you pushing and cheerleading to get beyond the struggle, it may be a welcome relief to hear you say, “Let’s come back to this next week.”
If you tend to be the parent who typically relieves pressure, experiment with holding space for struggle. Consider

  • partnering,
  • not giving up,
  • trying new strategies,
  • offering faith in your child’s strength and ability to meet a challenge.

If you’re the kind of parent that typically provides support for overcoming challenge, experiment with

  • giving your child a break,
  • slowing the pace,
  • doing fewer problems,
  • going down to an easier level for a little while longer.

These are the two options. Pick one; see what happens. If you hit a wall, try the other! It’s okay to play around with these tools. That’s how you discover what your child needs to thrive.

This post is originally from Instagram and @juliebravewriter is my account there so come follow along for more conversations like this one!

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Friday Freewrite: Feet

Friday Freewrite

Oh, the tales your feet could tell! Have they stepped on a pin or tripped on the stairs? Or maybe they ran for cover in a rainstorm or wore pointe shoes for the first time. Share a story that involves your footsies.

New to freewriting? Check out our online guide.

Journey Into the Past

Penning the Past online writing class

Got a child obsessed with

  • American Girl books?
  • Magic Tree House?
  • Civil War battles?
  • WWII facts?

We have an online writing class for you! Take Penning the Past this summer!

Historical fiction is enchanting to kids. Now they have a chance to try their hand at this fascinating genre.

You’ll be surprised how well non-fiction and fiction blend together to engage even your most reluctant writers!

Why is historical fiction a great entry point to creative writing?

Many of the story elements are READY before they start! The setting, conflict, even the characters might be something your kids already have imagined.

ENTHUSIASM is built in! This is your child’s chance to take that historical event they’re obsessed with and run with it!

Parameters associated with historical fiction (time, place, etc.) act as GUIDANCE for your writers. Having a ‘container’ in which to develop their stories actually gives them more to write about!

Students build ACADEMIC SKILLS as they research. The differences between primary and secondary sources, accuracy and editing their work all come into play.

This class is a fantastic compliment to TRAVEL. Follow up a family trip with a deep dive into the world they’ve been visiting! 

See what students say:

Thank you so much for this amazing class! You have really helped me to grow as a writer! Thank you for the new experience! – Abby 

I have not been to Pompeii, but I visited a travelling exhibition last month at the Australian National Maritime Museum showing some of the Pompeii artifacts. It was so interesting to see their real jewelry, strongbox, bread, other food, bowls etc. I was able to feel connected with the people and life at that tragic time. – Manu

Allow your child to be TRANSPORTED to another place and time this summer, with Historical Fiction


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Podcast: Ask Julie Transcripts

Brave Writer Podcast Transcripts

The podcast transcripts are all here! You asked for them, we promised, and now we’re delivering. 📬

We’ve been including them one by one on the Brave Writer blog and now you can enjoy ALL of the transcripts for the Ask Julie podcasts.

Print them out, highlight the parts you like, make notes in the margins—or stash them in a folder for the next time you need a pop of inspiration.

Transcripts for the Season Five podcasts:

S5E1: Embracing Elements of Home with Tammy Kim
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S5E2Growing a Mind & Cultivating Curiosity with Christa Gregg
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S5E3What About Technology? with Lindsay McCarthy
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S5E4Checklist Lovers – Planning From Behind with Jennifer Vetter
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S5E5When Learning Isn’t Fun with Anne Trott
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S5E6Community is Self-Care with Jennifer Hunter
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S5E7Finding a Balance in High School with Karen Goldstein
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S5E8Cultivating Connection in a Large Family with Jardel Manalo
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S5E9Awesome Adulting with Jessica Hammond
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S5E10Prepping Your Teen for Adulthood with Myah St. John
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S5E11Breaking Free from Multitasking with Courtney Moyer
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S5E12Routines, Chaos, and Big Goals—Oh My! with CO Springs Homeschool Mamas Group
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The Brave Writer podcast is available on Apple Podcastsour blog, and any other podcast providing server like Stitcher.

If you’re new to the podcast, listen to previous episodes here.

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Get Outside

Get Outside

“Let them once get in touch with Nature, and a habit is formed which will be a source of delight through life. We were meant to be naturalists, each in his degree, and it is inexcusable to live in a world so full of marvels of plant and animal life and to care for none of these things.” —Charlotte Mason Vol 1, pg 61.

I read these words for the first time in a condo in Orange County CA and felt depressed. Oh, we could identify pill bugs and sparrows, but drought resistant plants and asphalt in every direction under the endless sunny skies did not a naturalist make (in me). Charlotte said to get outside no matter what weather—and all I wanted was one gray day as a reason to stay in—with a fire!

Her challenge stayed with me, though. We began walking in a dry creek bed, we visited horses that lived up the hill from us (discovered accidentally on a stroller outing). We drove in nightmarish LA traffic to the beach and tide pools. We named the trees, the shrubs, and the American crow.

Then we moved to Ohio. Oh. My. Now we had a creek, and more types of birds than we could name or count, trees taller than our house, and the ever-changing weather.

Good thing Charlotte’s words hung in my mind:

Get outside in every temperature,
with appropriate clothing.

So we did. And I still do. Changes how I see the day. Grounds me. Keeps me connected to an older wiser story—that was going on long before I got here and will continue long after I’m gone.

A day gone wrong can be rebooted with gloves, a hat, and a brisk walk.

Bundle ‘em up! Head outside!

This post is originally from Instagram and @juliebravewriter is my account there so come follow along for more conversations like this one!

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