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Professional Mom

I never liked the terms “homemaker” or “housewife” or even “stay-at-home” mom (as if any of us actually stay at home, in this age of driving everywhere!). Each term implied to me that the choice to spend 24/7 with my kids had more to do with the house than the people in it.

Today, I read an incidental comment in a blog from 2009 that referred to a woman as a “Professional Mom.” The words shimmered on the screen for a moment and then I heard a small boy band of angels harmonizing: “Ahhhhhh.” That’s it. That’s the term for what we do.

Not ‘Home Sweet Home’ for Me
The inclusion of the word “home” or “house” in defining women who choose to make careers out of educating their kids and/or managing the details of their family’s life together, shrinks the scope of what “mothering” and “educating” imply. Home is a great word—when referring to flopping on the couch, watching TV, getting away from “out there.” Home can be the place where memories are housed (groan). Home is either a respite from the world away or a mini-prison, depending on who you live with.

But when the words “home” or “house” are attached to the work I do every day, I feel diminished. My work is suddenly the ill-fitting homemade prom dress, not the sparkly, elegance of Vera Wang!

Professh, baby!
“Professional” on the other hand, implies trained, skilled, qualified—a certification that elevates you to the level of expert in your field. Silk stockings, a wide desk, business lunches over cocktails—”glam cool smart” life.

Now I know realistically, “mocktails” are more likely to appear in sippy cups at your lunches. Stockings? Do you mean soup stock? A wide desk buried in paperwork and Cheerios, strangely resembling the kitchen table, more like.

Our profession is a down-and-dirty one, but it IS a profession. The oldest one. Training comes through immersion—a blind leap into the ocean of parenthood, where we juggle the manual in one hand and the crying baby in the other, while hanging onto the life raft during a rip tide.

10,000 Miles Hours
Malcolm Gladwell in his book, Outliers, asserts that expertise in any field is created through practice. 10 hours a week for 20 years gives you 10,000 hours. Hahahahahahahahahahahaha. As though you only spend 10 hours a week on this job! I figure if you calculated your time investment using 40 hours per week (which is still on the low end, if you’ve had babies and toddlers), you would have hit 10,000 hours in less than 5 years.

Let me repeat that: By the time your oldest child is 5, you are an expert—a professional mom. Your “certification” may still not know how to tie his shoes, but proof of your expertise hangs round your ankles and tugs on your shirt tail for more juice, all the live-long day.

Your multi-tasking lifestyle may not draw a paycheck in cash (though it certainly does in hugs), but it is no less significant to the well-being of society than Oreo cookies, for heaven’s sake (celebrating its 100th birthday as a tribute to the achievement of factory produced food items). I’d argue professional mothering is a lot more significant—yet at a dinner party, you probably would get more accolades for being the marketing director of Oreo than the cookie-baking mom of your neighborhood.

Schmart & Schmexy
I own a business. This one. And when I go to business networking events, it always stumps me when people ask what I do. I tell them I own a company. Then I explain that it teaches language arts and writing to homeschooling families. Nearly every person in these business contexts has said to me: “What an interesting idea for a business. How did you think of that?” as though I sat down one day and decided to be an entrepreneur.

Not on your life!

  • I’m an expert mother.
  • I’m a specialized educator.
  • I’m a freelance writer.
  • I’m a dedicated family facilitator and home provider.

In short,

  • I’m a professional mom

…who happens to own a business that provides training and support for our profession. I give the equivalent of in-services, courses, manuals, workshops, and consulting to expand the expertise of my highly trained and dedicated community of colleagues in the profession of motherhood (and education).

And I’m proud of it! At a lawyer’s open house last fall, I stopped saying I owned a business after the third lawyer asked if I was a lawyer. I simply replied: “I’m a mother to five kids. Best career decision ever.” I wish I had known about the “professional mom” moniker! Would have loved saying that.

Priceless
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Ours is the oldest, and (dare I say it? Yes, I dare) most important profession of all. Well done, Professional Moms. Whether you live in a hut, a house, a condo, or a McMansion, you’re a pro.

Buy some silk stockings and take a lunch downtown this month. Put it on the business card. After all, it’s a business expense and you deserve it.

Posted in Brave Writer Philosophy, On Being a Mother | 2 Comments »


Why The Writer’s Jungle “costs so much.”

How much is the writer's jungle really worth

Brave Writer started with the idea that a family could grow in writing if the mother felt equipped to coach her children in the writing process without damaging their relationship.

I wrote The Writer’s Jungle to fill that gap—to be the one curricula that focused on the process (both of writing and parent-child relating while writing).

The Writer’s Jungle continues to be the key resource that moves parents from:

  • frustration,
  • apprehension,
  • angst,
  • and insecurity

to:

  • confidence,
  • competence,
  • and compassion for their kids.

Without the shift that The Writer’s Jungle offers (both in how to see writing and how to understand your role in that journey), other tools for writing will continue to lead you down the same paths—writer’s block, messy mechanics, stilted writing products, insufficient development in the writing piece itself, resistance, boredom, and the endless quest to know if you’re doing enough or too much or if your child is “on grade level.”

Not only that, other writing curricula give you a false sense of “writing competence.” Kids may churn out answers to prompts, they may follow the guidelines suggested yet never actually feel proud of what they write (excited by it, invested in it).

Just because a child has written 20 writing products in a year
doesn’t mean that any of them are interesting to read.

Somehow the goal of being an original writer with interesting things to say, written with power and panache, has been edited out of many programs on the market today.

I’ve been asked many many times why The Writer’s Jungle (let’s face it—a three-ring binder with 246 pages and tab dividers) costs so much ($97.00 for the binder edition, $79.00 for the digital version). Why charge so much for this information?

One of the key differences between Brave Writer and any other program I know about in homeschooling is that The Writer’s Jungle spans the lifetime of your homeschool. We don’t offer “The Writer’s Jungle: Grade 1” and “The Writer’s Jungle: Volume 7.” The tools and concepts in it are meant to last you for all your kids, for as long as they are at home with you. I hoped (12 years ago when I wrote the manual) that you would make this one purchase and not have to make any others.

While Brave Writer offers other products too (because so many of our fans have asked for them and appreciate how we teach, and want to marinate in our philosophy and practice), it is possible to simply own The Writer’s Jungle and teach your own kids for the rest of their lives using that one resource.

I did. I used the methods I share with you and never bought a single stitch of writing curriculum. I created my own writing assignments for my kids based on what they were studying and where they showed curiosity. I didn’t buy into the schoolish notion that kids were supposed to produce a “set” of writing assignments at each grade level. I focused instead on the liveliness of their communication, capitalizing on their interests, helping them to express those insights in writing.

We fit the form to the content,
not the other way around.

Over time, they emerged as wonderful writers (all of them, even the resistant ones).

I realize now that not everyone will feel this level of confidence in coaching writing. I also know that what I do naturally doesn’t come naturally to others (you’ve all told me that!)—hence, our 100s of products 12 years later.

But the original thought was that you could use The Writer’s Jungle and be done with this endless quest for “the perfect writing curriculum.”

I still feel that way.

I remember overhearing two moms recently say that The Arrow, for instance, seemed unnecessary because anyone can pick passages for dictation—Why should Julie Bogart do that for us? I laughed. I agree! I say so in Chapter 1. If you open any novel you own, you can use any passage your finger finds, to good effect. They all work. Just do it. Be consistent. Get it done.

The Arrow and The Boomerang grew out of a cry from our customers—they wanted someone (me) to pick the passages and help them know what to say about the literature that would make copying the passage a rich experience in language arts. They wanted an “open-and-go” program. These are busy moms with lots of kids. I understood!

So in 2002, I started creating monthly products with the goal of keeping the instruction simple and easy to use (less is more). Clearly this approach (one small piece of curriculum per month, not overwhelming, not overly demanding) fit that bill beautifully because we’ve had nothing but success with those products.

Likewise, our new line of writing program products attempts to meet the other need—writing projects based on the developmental stages of growth in Chapter 14 of The Writer’s Jungle. You don’t HAVE to use these. But sometimes it’s nice to let someone else do the thinking. My goal is to provide HELP—not to replace you and your creativity, your intimate knowledge of your kids, or to hijack your family’s style of education.

When I wrote The Writer’s Jungle, I committed myself to helping families when they get stuck. That’s part of the price—my tangible help.

We have a website with hundreds of pages of free, useful material on it. I answer email, chat messages, and phone calls all day every day giving detailed, personal help to any customer who asks for it. Sometimes I’ve been on the phone with Australia at 3:00 a.m. on a Sunday night! (Time zone calculations are tough!)

My point is this: Brave Writer isn’t like other companies. We’ve relied on word of mouth and the laws of attraction, not promotion. I want to grow at a pace that can provide the support families require to be successful home educators. We are smaller than you might think. And to me, that’s a good thing. I love the way we’ve grown and I love our customers. And we’ve grown—tremendously—without sacrificing our commitment to you.

Many of us happily spend $97.00 on:

  • 2 video games,
  • 1 dinner out as a family of six,
  • 3 piano lessons,
  • a helmet for lacrosse,
  • 2 hours of tutoring,
  • 1 boxed curriculum for one single grade level,
  • 24 cups of Starbucks!

What price would you put on transforming how you understand writing and teaching it? What if you could re-route the trajectory of your homeschool’s future? This is what Brave Writer families tell me—that writing changed for good, once they waded into our waters.

Brave Writer doesn’t sell curriculum. It sells transformation—the essential skills and ideas you need to become the effective writing coach and ally to your kids that you want to be. Not everyone needs what we offer. Some moms are already there, naturally. But for those who do need what we have, The Writer’s Jungle is the place to start and may even be, the end of your search.

My goal is for your family to be set on a new,
freeing, transforming path,
one that takes you all the way to college with your kids.

We aim to help you get there through timely, generous support, and to keep you writing, however we can.

Brave Writer intends to meet the needs of families who want to create lively, powerful, competent writers while fostering a nurturing home environment.

Peace and progress, in the writing process.

That’s what Brave Writer is all about.

Learn more about Brave Writer products

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Friday Freewrite: Fruit!

Friday Freewrite: Incorporate two different fruits into your freewrite today. Bananas and apples, or oranges and kiwi fruit, or pomegranates and figs, or cantaloupe and mangoes. Pick any combination!

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Trust the Process

Trust the Process

On Facebook the other morning, I shared that the hardest part for homeschooling families used to traditional writing programs is making the mental shift to seeing writing as a process. Like all paradigm shifts, at first the new idea (the new way of seeing) feels wrong or unnatural. However, at the same time, you feel strangely drawn to the “new” (it’s spoken to some part of you where your truth and experience reside). So you push past your discomfort and lean into the new way of understanding despite your anxiety that it may be wrong!

I got the following email from Stephanie and it beautifully illustrates this shift—what it looks and feels like to live into the new.

I have her permission to share it.


Hi Julie!

Had an interesting and very illuminating time writing with Jason today. I really want to thank you for the idea of shared writing. I think it is almost like I needed permission to be able to do it and not feel as if I was “cheating.” Which is funny, because I talk and blog about how much that is seen as “cheating” can actually be wonderful ways to learn. The thing is, it makes so much sense! This is the way that we approach other subjects like math. We work on it together until he “gets it” and can do it on his own. Duh!

Working with Jason today on his essay for his evaluation felt so right…it was not me making suggestions or correcting things, it was him and me working and brainstorming and seeing what worked and what did not. We worked on it for over an hour with no complaints and we both felt good about it after.

I have to admit that I had to get over my own hang-up that I was “doing it for him” because he was not writing it “all by himself”. What really jumped out at me while we were working was how much of a collaboration it wound up being…more like an ongoing discussion about writing than a “lesson.” I also realized sometimes writing just comes down to seeing “what sounds good”…in the past I would get hung up on trying to explain more about why it should be one way or the other. This time around we often just tried different ways of saying things to see what we liked best. I have found that he sometimes gets hung up on how best to say something or is not sure how it “fits in”, so he drops the idea. Since I was right there, I could say let’s explore that a bit more and worry about what to do with it later (and lo and behold, once we fleshed it out, it was pretty easy to figure out where it worked).

I was a little worried that he would feel as if I was “directing” too much, but when we were done, I could tell he felt good about it. I asked him if he felt that he still owned it even though we worked on it together and he said it was definitely his.

Makes me doubly glad that we are homeschooling, because I think this way of learning works well for him and I am not sure it would fly if he was writing for another teacher who was going to grade his work. I definitely did not write it for him, but not sure a teacher would feel comfortable with the level of my involvement, which is a shame. But that is why we are homeschooling.

I touched base with Jason last night before bed about how much I enjoyed our writing session today and he agreed. Yea!

I have to keep reminding myself that this is a process. I don’t always do well with trusting the process – I want to know exactly how it is going to work out (and how we are going to get there). I remember taking the The Writer’s Jungle Online class and posting a note to Christine during the free write portion asking her if this was really going to come together as his writing was so stream of consciousness, I just could not see where it was going or how it was going to get there. She encouraged me to trust the process and dang it if it did not all come together. I have seen that when we work at home…I can’t always see where we are going or how we are going to get there, but when we actually sit down and do it, it somehow seems to come together.

Good lesson for this left-brained, sequential, plan-it-all out Mom whose kid is a very right-brained, global, stream of consciousness thinker. Gotta embrace the life lessons that come our way while parenting our kids!

So thanks again for the freedom. I also wanted to let you know I am definitely looking forward to the next podcast!


Thanks Stephanie for sharing your writing experiences with Brave Writer readers.

Bottom line: The process of writing is more successful when you embrace your role as coach and ally.

Growth is fostered through modeling
and collaboration, through trust and time.

These strategies feel like they would be more time-consuming than independent work assigned to a child. But as most of us know, sometimes independent work simply means hours wasted on prodding, exasperation, and a child sitting stone cold at a table.

Fewer writing projects with more interaction is a far more effective strategy for writing growth than required independence and lots of assignments.

Trust me. Trust Stephanie!

Julie


The Writer's Jungle Online

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This is a Test: Be Gentle

Brave Writer Podcast

This is a test. An experimentation, even! How exciting. Noah (oldest son) helped me, and we do have real content about writing and Brave Writer and your role in the process.

But this is the test podcast… and future podcasts should be bettah—with more detail, content, and yes, even sound effects!

Cheers,
Julie


Brave Writer Podcast

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