A Brave Writer's Life in Brief

What if…

• you made a rule for yourself that said: “I will never assume my child is out to trick me”?
• you heard a child’s complaints as useful information so you can solve a problem together?
• your child’s unhappiness mattered more to you than your need to push that child through schoolwork?

Trust Goes Both Ways

Trust goes both ways only if it goes both ways. Can your child trust you to bring good things into their daily lives? Does your child trust that when they are bored, tired, annoyed, or unhappy those feelings matter to you?

You can still have objectives. But what happens to those objectives when we take our children’s experience seriously? Might we:

• change the delivery system?
• create different conditions for performing the task?
• lend kind support or a sense of humor?

Our kids are not the problem.

Mutual trust is.

When we build mutual trust, we improve everyone’s life. Learn to be trustworthy by trusting that your children are not out to ruin the day, your homeschool, your family or your life. Meet them where they are so they can meet you where you are too.

Lather, rinse, repeat.

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Are you struggling to achieve an idealistic version of home education?

Maybe “idealistic” is the wrong word. Perhaps we struggle with an unrealistic, inaccurate view of what homeschooling is. After all: the one key value that ought to be the minimum requirement is that what our kids learn is at least as interesting as watching Moana or playing in the woods.

Flip the Script

Provoke a new relationship to what your kids are learning!

For instance, if when teaching commas you start by breaking the rules, you give your kids a chance to experience the power of a comma. Try this:

• Find a sentence with a comma then insert additional commas after every word.
• Next, read aloud the sentence with all the extra commas.
• As you or your child pauses each time there is a comma (even if it doesn’t make sense in the intonation), your child will begin to understand how and why we use commas at all!
• Finally, read the original sentence with only the one, well-placed comma.
• Your child will now have a felt sense of the power of a comma. It will be known, not just practiced for a worksheet.

A key question to ask yourself, then, is:

How can I demonstrate the POWER of this concept, idea, skill?

That will move you in the right direction. 

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