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How to Give Positive Writing Feedback

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This post was written in 2007 but still has timely information!

Last week, I had a near-chocolate experience. I clicked the “send” key and my newly completed synthesis paper for my Master’s in theology zipped away in a cloud of cyber dust. Destination? Professor/advisor. His task? To find the gaffes, flaws in logic, unsubstantiated claims, mistakes in organization, syntactical errors, and poorly developed ideas. I know what you’re thinking, Uh, that’s how Julie gets her kicks? Remind me not to invite her to a party…

The thing is, I spend so much time giving other people feedback about their writing, it’s a real treat for me to receive critique from someone qualified and committed to improving my writing. I get all “pins and needles-ish” about it.

So Thursday night, Jon brought home the white packet containing my 32 pages with professorial commentary. I ripped open the envelope holding the draft with relish (I ripped the envelope with relish, ergo, enjoyment; I did not rip the envelope holding the draft, garnished with the condiment relish, ahem… that’s the kind of editing work I do well… I digress).

My professor had myriad corrections to offer me. As I read each one, I thought about why I was enjoying his feedback versus times when I’ve felt utterly deflated by editorial critique. (And there have been those times in my writing career.) A couple of thoughts percolated to the surface and I thought they were worth sharing with you.

  1. My professor and I have the same goals. The professor and I have a bargain. I do the research, writing and revising. He offers the supportive, yet critical feedback that will help me get my paper into shape so that I will graduate. This paper in particular is not about a grade. It’s about earning the final seal of approval for my Master’s degree. I know that he knows what I need to do to earn the degree. As a result, I view his feedback as support for the achievement of my goal, not as criticism of my efforts.
  2. His feedback was specifically about upgrading the quality of the writing, not invalidating my insights, ideas or conclusions. He and I have dialogued all along the way as I’ve worked on this paper and topic. He’s been available through appointment and email. In those conversations, he’s helped to guide the development of my ideas and he’s affirmed the insights I’ve shared. As a result, when I submitted my paper, I already knew that he and I had a similar vision for the paper.
  3. He smiles a lot. Let me tell you how much that helps in reading his feedback. I can picture his smiling face.
  4. He gave me positive feedback first – and not in a canned way. He expressed concrete and specific reasons why he liked my paper which let me know which parts resonated with him, showed him something new, offered a well-articulated position. Those positive comments helped me view his critical ones as an effort to elevate the whole to the level of the parts he validated.
  5. He considers the topic I’m writing about important. That means he gives feedback in the context of believing in the meaning of my writing, not just affirming the quality of how it is written. This makes me feel as if we are having a conversation about ideas rather than my writing something for his approval or disapproval. I care about these ideas and he cares to interact with me about them.

As I thought about Brave Writer and what we hope to do for our kids, I thought about Dr. Gollar’s useful and wise feedback.

Can we adopt some of his tactics?

  1. Can we have the same goals as our kids when they write? If they want to write a thank you note, can the goal be to help our kids write it so that the grandparent feels thanked? Can we foster an atmosphere where the writing a child does (a story, a report, a written narration) is valued for the purpose of the writing rather than as a checkbox on our list of homeschool tasks?
  2. Can we talk to our kids about the topics for writing? Even outside of the “writing times”? Can we let them know that the things they care about matter to us and we think their perspective on the topic is uniquely interesting to us?
  3. Can we remember to give specific positive feedback first? Find that powerful verb, that insightful description, that clever turn of phrase and notice it.
  4. Can we believe in the importance of the ideas themselves? Will we care about the meaning more than the writing, initially?

Yes, we can.

And let’s smile a lot.

Let’s let our kids know that we enjoy their company, believe in their ideas, care about their success.

I’ve really loved being in school these last four years. I’ve gained renewed respect for the act of writing and the courage it takes to submit your work to those who would critique and grade it. Sensitivity and genuine caring go a long way in helping a student writer to write and receive your ideas as supportive rather than critical.

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When Kids Need Extra Help

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April 10, 2007

I just dropped my 12 year old off at Rita’s house. Rita Cevasco (Rooted in Language) is our reading and language specialist. She’s testing our fourth child, Liam, for issues similar to Noah’s. Because I now have a better idea of what the issues might look like in a home that accommodates their non-traditional learning styles, I felt it would be helpful for us to get a better picture of what we might be able to do for Liam so that he doesn’t have quite as bumpy a transition to a traditional schooling environment (whenever he chooses it for himself). He hopes to be a zoologist some day and we both know (he even more than me) how much science and math that requires. It’s quite possible that he’ll uncover a non-traditional route to his dream job, but in the meantime, the primary requirements of every zookeeping and zoological post we’ve discovered include at least two years of college heavily focused on science and math.

Liam happens to be gifted in both… but can’t handle learning them in anything resembling a traditional educational format. He learned his math facts literally through playing online games. He has never used a math text until this year… which is a chore for him, but given his maturity, he is more willing to keep at it in spite of frustrations and tedium. All his natural science knowledge has come through reading, observation, zoo classes and Discovery channel. He retains animal related data like a steel trap!

Questions and Concerns

Rita and I chatted a bit about my recent blog post and many of your questions. The truth is, Rita says that she rarely sees a parent who comes to her that has misread her child. Usually a mother does know when something isn’t quite right. Sometimes the disparity is that the child is so amazingly gifted or bright in one area and then is profoundly average in others, that that gap between the brilliance and the average performance gives rise to concerns. And those concerns are often warranted because for a talented, smart child, the frustration of being held back by lacking verbal skills or poor handwriting or the inability to write or sit or organize thoughts is more frustrating than it might be for a child whose skills were more balanced.

As I read through the questions and comments in last week’s post, I thought I’d address one at a time as I have time and the ability to post. (My Master’s thesis is in revision right now so I’m juggling that in the midst of everything else!) Clare asked about the articles I read related to brain development. Because it’s been ten years since I read them, I no longer have the specific articles in hand. But interestingly, through a quick google, I did find an article that stated something similar to what I remember reading. (Note the happy placement of the word jungle as his metaphor for how the brain functions!)

Recommended educational approaches, then, consist primarily of trying to maintain a relaxed, focused atmosphere that offers options for learning in individually satisfying ways. The old paradigm of students as empty vessels waiting to be filled with knowledge has given way to the constructivist belief that students continuously build understandings based on their prior experiences and new information. The idea of a fixed intelligence has given way to a more flexible perception of gradual intellectual development dependent on external stimulation.

Gerald Edelman, chairman of the Department of Neurobiology at Scripps Research Institute and 1972 recipient of the Nobel Prize for Physiology, offers a view of the brain that could influence the future classroom. Edelman’s vision of the brain as a jungle in which systems interact continuously in a chaotic fashion suggests that learners would thrive in an environment that provides many sensory, cultural, and problem layers. These ideas suggest that students have a natural inclination to learn, understand, and grow. Surround students with a variety of instructional opportunities and they will make the connections for learning.

From How Can Research on the Brain Inform Education?

The primary breakthrough in brain research has been that real learning occurs through:

  • relationships between ideas,
  • building on previous learning,
  • and engaged interest.

For kids who struggle with verbal skills, sitting still to study, handwriting, sequencing and so on, this kind of brain research would indicate that perhaps you can cut a different path through the jungle. Capitalize on your child’s interests, hook up learning to areas of competence, and immerse your child in a subject area long enough for a child to form a relationship to that subject matter. Learn through channels that work rather than trying to beat a path through dense forest and obstacles.

Focus on a Single Topic

When we first “deschooled” Noah based on the brain research I had read, the revolutionary new concept I incorporated into our lives was to focus on a single topic of interest at a time. We didn’t study math, spelling, writing, reading, history and science all in a day or even a week. Instead, when Noah showed interest in origami, we got books from the library, we bought the little colorful square papers from Michael’s, we looked up origami artists online and then, we made origami… for weeks. It’s not that origami was all we did for those weeks, it’s that we gave into it fully while the interest existed. I didn’t think to myself (as I had been likely to do previously), “When can we get done with origami so I can get him to do his mathbook?” Origami was sufficient for that season.

Origami naturally led to an interest in Japanese culture. I found and read the book Sadako and the Thousand Paper Cranes aloud to the kids. This book led us to World War II. My husband started checking out old WWII videos from the library and he watched them with Noah in the evenings. Noah became fascinated with old tanks both due to the movies and due to a computer game he liked to play with his dad called Bolo. So I checked out Dorling Kindersley books about WWII tanks from the library. The Internet was in its infancy at the time and Jon (my husband) was a big Internet dabbler. He set up a website for Noah and Noah built a website to feature tanks. It was never finished, but it did host photos and diagrams of the tanks and gave Noah his first taste of the power of html.

I could go on from here, the way his love of computer languages (and our family obsession with Shakespeare) has climaxed in his interest in linguistics in college. I see it now. I did not see it coming then.

The Learning Journey

Sometimes when I give this example of Noah’s, it looks too pristine, too obviously educational and wonderful. You must know that in the midst of this learning journey, he still had a hard time coming when called, remembering to brush his teeth (and other ordinary daily life kinds of expectations), and he became a target of bullying in our neighborhood. Learning became wonderful for a time (until I panicked again and imposed schoolish learning), but life was not without challenges.

Our fourth child, Liam, exhibits many of Noah’s traits, but his interests have been far more narrow and less obviously schoolish in disposition. His primary area of interest has been a couple of computer games he plays online. Having raised Noah and having watched the way pushing him to learn backfired so many times, I have been more hands off with Liam. His computer gaming led us to making a notebook (of about 20 pages which took a year to complete) that featured maps of an island chain he created out of his imagination. Because of his online gaming, he became deeply interested in maps, languages, flags, wars, topography. We used “Mapping the World by Heart” as a way to understand things like longitude and latitude, how to indicate mountain ranges and so on. Handwriting has consistently been a struggle for this left-hander so half of the text is in my handwriting as he narrated to me.

It was fascinating to see that his love of gaming led to this creative project. Immersion has been key to keeping his interest. It’s taken some creativity on my part to see how to capitalize on it.

Time’s up! I need to go pick him up from Rita’s right now.

-julie


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Oh no! It’s March and I haven’t taught writing!

I get these kinds of emails starting about now and they run until the end of the school year. Totally understandable. When a subject doesn’t fit your lifestyle or if it presents challenges to either you or your children, it’s much easier to let it slide in favor of the other subjects you tackle confidently and naturally.

Writing tends to be one of the most often dropped subjects. Even if your kids don’t like math, it’s easy to put the math book in front of them every day. But with writing, it doesn’t lend itself to that kind of hands-off routine. Instead you wonder when you will have a block of time without any distractions when you can finally sit down and work on writing.

Well, consider this blog entry the “ding” on your email calendar. It’s time to make time to write.

Don’t fret. This is Brave Writer, remember? I have a few tips to help make it easy on you.

First, block out time for writing (even drop something else you usually do to fit it in). In fact, drop the something you’ve done well all year. Now’s the time to turn the tables and focus on what you haven’t had time to do. There are eight weeks until June. If you can commit to doing the following practices for eight weeks (eight weeks isn’t that long!), you’ll have accomplished the goals you had and will finish with a flourish.

  • Start with copywork. Commit to one entry of copywork per week until June. You’ll have eight weeks of copywork, which means eight carefully copied texts. Much better than zero!
  • On a different day, do dictation. Pick short passages (back issues of the Arrow work great or grab the nearest novel and just pick the opening lines of four chapters… easy peasy).
  • Freewrite on Fridays. (I have many freewriting prompts on this blog.)
  • Pick one freewrite to revise. Take it through the writing process. What that means is, freewrite for, say, three or four weeks and pick one to revise. Block out time to go through the narrowing and expanding steps, the revision and the editing. It will take you a couple of weeks to do the steps so plan to have the revision process occur in May. Skip freewriting during the two revision weeks.

That’s it.

By the end of the year, you’ll have:

  • 8 passages of copywork
  • 8 dictation passages
  • 6 freewrites
  • 1 polished piece of writing that has gone through the writing process.

This schedule is do-able. So go for it! You’re investing in your summer vacation by putting in a bit more energy right at the end of the school year. You’ll go into summer guilt-free. That’s a worthwhile goal, isn’t it? This little writing program is the last sprint to the finish line.

For those who are unclear about the steps for revising/editing, The Writer’s Jungle details the process and supports you in achieving these goals. You may also find that it is the boost you need at the end of the year when new ideas and enthusiasm for homeschooling are waning.

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If Your Teen Is Behind in Writing

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It’s downright scary when your child turns 16 and still can’t write (or won’t write or hates writing or avoids writing). Panic sets in and moms respond in one of two ways:

  • they clamp down and expect more writing
  • or they give up and close their eyes to the problem hoping it will get fixed later, in college.

These are two totally understandable approaches to the realization that your teen is still not writing well and college is only two years away.

I want to offer you a third approach:

Start over.

Before I share what I mean by starting over, read the following list to determine if your teen is behind in writing (I use masculine pronouns because far more male teens struggle with writing than females, but this list applies to everyone):

  • No writing program you’ve used has ever worked for him.
  • He hates holding a pencil and avoids any work that requires handwriting.
  • He still finds spelling a challenge and misspells homonyms and easy words regularly.
  • You face a “big scene” whenever you give feedback or try to help him write.
  • His writing is unclear, doesn’t develop logically, and sounds like a second grader wrote it, not a soon-to-be adult.
  • His thoughts are undeveloped and his writing doesn’t show the extent of his verbal vocabulary.
  • He has never written more than a paragraph or two and has no idea how to write an essay or any format beyond freewriting.
  • He is unskilled in punctuation even though you’ve taught him how to punctuate.
  • He seems to understand the instructions while you talk with him, but he goes completely blank once you leave and can’t remember what he was supposed to write once you leave him to work on his own.
  • He can’t keep his ideas in his head while he is writing them down. The pencil “makes” the thoughts “disappear.”
  • He must have supervision while he writes or he will wander off to do something else.
  • He needs leading questions in order to write.

If your child exhibits more than half of these symptoms, you have a delayed writer on your hands. You may also have a teen with a language processing disorder. I want to talk about the difference between the two.

For teens who are simply delayed in writing, it’s possible to get back on track and quickly. As I stated above, you’ll want to start over. You’ll need to let your teen know that what you’ve done to the present point has not worked.

How to Wipe the Slate Clean

In order to do so, you need to enlist your teen’s interest in becoming a competent writer. There’s not a lot that can be done if your teen is unconvinced of writing’s importance to his future.

Once you have a willing teen, I recommend beginning with the “Jot it Down” phase of writing. You’ll jot down your teens thoughts as he’s thinking them and expressing them verbally. You’ll begin with his areas of expertise and interest rather than typical “school” topics. Your goal is to foster writing skills (the skill called “dredging up words from inside to commit to paper”), not to master subject matter. So separate those goals right off the bat.

As you write out his thoughts for him, you’ll go back to the writing together to do the revising and editing. Talk about the writing, talk about ways to improve it, talk about how to reorganize it so that it makes more impact.

Do it all together.

Stick to topics of interest while you work through this phase.

You will follow the stages of development in order starting from the beginning. If you do this, your teen will move more quickly through the stages of growth because of his age and maturity and can (believe it or not) reach a level of high school competence in just two short years.

If you follow these steps, however, and you discover that your child makes no progress or continues to become frustrated by the mechanics of writing combined with the generative thinking required, I strongly urge you to get learning disability testing.

Don’t wait.

Auditory and language processing disorders don’t always show up in full strength until high school when mom takes more of a background role in home education and the teen is now responsible for proactive work. (Incidentally, my own son, who is 19 and in college, gets accommodations from the learning center at his university. Knowing in advance means you can look at colleges that are supportive of students with learning issues so that your young adult has a successful experience!)

Yesterday I attended the wedding of one of my first teen students. Seven years ago, he was sixteen and not writing. His mother came to me desperate to overcome his writing struggles. We began at the very beginning. Her son was cooperative and worked hard. Within two years, he became a competent (though not brilliant) writer. By the time he finished college, he wound up earning A’s in his writing classes. Knock my socks off!

It can be done.

Your teen can overcome years of frustration one step at a time with love and support. And if he is fighting a disability, find out so that he can get the kind of support that will make him successful.


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Take it easy


Tired in the art museum
Originally uploaded by juliecinci.

Sometimes in our zeal to create the ideal, we forget that our kids are still young and can tire easily. We don’t have to do it all, to do it well. Here are a few things to keep in mind when your enthusiasm for learning creates cranky kids.

1. Remember the Brave Writer one-thing principle.
Pick one thing that you want to do with your kids and only do that one. Prepare for it. Set it up to succeed. Enjoy it while it’s happening. Reminisce about how great it was. Do not pass go or collect new activities to attempt until you have happily followed all four steps.

2. Take breaks.
If you go on a nature walk, the idea isn’t to race through the hills tracking as many birds as possible. The idea is to walk at a pace that everyone can handle, stopping to examine a bug on the ground or to run fingers over moss or to eat granola bars. Look for birds and butterflies and chewing gum stuck to the bottom of the bench. Remember that the love of nature is cultivated by a positive experience in nature, not by a lengthy catalog of species observed or creatures sketched.

3. Know when to quit.
The photo for today’s blog is an example of when to quit. When brilliant art is less interesting than snoozing on the bench in the middle of the room, you’ve already exceeded your child’s absorption limit. Viewing art with alert children for an hour is better than dragging them through the entire exhibit for four. Your money’s worth is not measured by time but by the exhillaration of the experience.

4. Be interested yourself.
Never expect your kids to be interested in what bores you. If you just don’t have enthusiasm for Shakespeare, don’t foist it on your kids. If you find poetry too puzzling, read novels. If you wish you did have interest in art, classical music, bread baking or Scrabble, pursue it for yourself, paying attention to how you overcome your resistance and initial fear/anxiety about the topic. Then, share your enthusiasm with your kids while modeling how to overcome the intimidation factor of that particular field.

5. Enjoy the moment.
Some of the best homeschooling happens off-schedule. I used to make the mistake of thinking that it “didn’t count” if I hadn’t planned it in advance. Absurd. Years of home education have taught me that following the rabbit trail (Greek myths lead to looking up the Greek alphabet online to watching “Hercules” by Disney) , seizing the moment (reading four chapters while interest is strong rather than the usual two), scrapping the schedule (to accept an invitation to see newborn puppies) usually produce the highest quality memories and learning.

Remember: joy is the best teacher. Tune into joy and you’ll be tuned into your kids and learning.

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