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Tuesday Teatime: Nunnymollers

Liam has the Redwall bug. He’s whipping through the series like a hurricane. His older brother had the same reaction to the Redwall series. I cooperated with the addiction by reading two of the books aloud to the entire family. Yes, they’re delightful in their own way and Brian Jacques has to be commended for creating clever dialects, delightful animal characterizations and repeatedly stimulating battles that keep kids on the edge of their seats.

Not so much for moms, though, I confess. I have a hard time keeping my mind on the plots being that they are a tad predictable. Good guys, bad guys, heirloom swords, epic confrontations, moles with Yorkshire accents.The usual drill. I’ll be reading along and suddenly pages will go by while my brain is elsewhere (like, say, on lunch or when is that orthodontist appointment again?, and Oh! I can’t wait for American Idol to start…). Suddenly, out of the blue, one of the kids will ask, “What do you think Mom? What will happen next?”

Blink.

Uh, Simon will be mean to a girl from South Dakota?

Oh, wait, Redwall, you say. Thinking, thinking. I used to stumble around bluffing, until one day, I stumbled on a sturdy, reliable answer—one I could use at the end of every chapter for every book. I offer it to you, in case, like me, your mind wanders a wee bit while you read: “The bad guys are getting ready to attack Redwall Abbey and the good guys are getting ready to defend it.” Works just about every time. 🙂 (Thought it might help Melissa Wiley, too.)

Now honestly, I love the series. I love the way it engages readers, infects them with the drive to read hundreds of pages. More than anything though, I thank Brian Jacques for making my kids’ mouths salivate with a desire for dandelion cordial and meadowcream because those cravings drove us to purchase the Redwall Cookbook last week. Unlike the fictional series, I’ve combed every page for meal time inspiration.

Liam and I were immediately drawn to the recipe for Nunnymollers. We sifted the flour and confectioner’s sugar together while cutting in the crumbled butter. We palmed the mixture into small balls of dough which we then flattened into five inch discs. We spread a thin layer of honey across each one, dotting the tops with three fresh raspberries each. Finally, Liam and I pinched the sides up into little purses and topped them with dollops of raspberry jam.

Into the oven they went. 30 minutes later we had teatime ala Redwall. My mind didn’t wander. Neither did my tongue… or my hips which now proudly sport the effects of white flour, sugar and butter. New Year’s weight loss resolutions be damned. I snarfed down four of those suckers. Oh. My. Deliciousness. They are sooooo good.

Here’s the recipe:

Nunnymollers

3 cups all-purpose flour

1/2 c. confectioner’s sugar

1 cup (2 sticks) butter cubed

12 strawberries, 12 raspberries (fresh)

Honey

Raspberry or strawberry jam

1. Preheat oven to 350. Whisk flour and sugar together. Add butter and rub it in with your fingers (or pulse in food processor) until mixture resembles fine bread crumbs. Sprinkle 3-4 tablespoons of ice cold water, mixing with fork or pulsing in food processor.

2. Divide dough into twelve 2-inch balls. Use your palm or rolling pin to flatten each ball into a 5-inch round.

3. Spread each round with a thin layer of honey. Place 1 strawberry and 1 raspberry in the center. (We used three raspberries and no strawberries in ours.) Fold edges of dough “in” toward the center, leaving a small opening in the middle. Pinch folds. Put a dollop of jam on top.

4. Bake until firm and golden, about 20-25 minutes. Let cool on wire rack before serving.

5. Enjoy!

Make some fragrant tea to go with them. If you’re tired of straight black tea, you can enhance the flavor by adding a fistful (bunch) of fresh mint leaves to steep with your tea bag. Once steeped, pour into mugs and add honey to taste. (Another recipe compliments Redwall.)

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By the way, I need more teatime photos from your houses! Send them to me: Julie [at] bravewriter [dot] com. I’ll post them on Tuesdays. They are often the favorite posts of the week. For your trouble, we send a complimentary issue of the Arrow or Boomerang.

Posted in General, Poetry Teatime | 10 Comments »

What’s love got to do with it?

I surf homeschooling discussion forums to keep up with the latest burning questions mothers have about writing, about homeschooling, about how to keep soul and body together while attending to the endless, legitimate demands of babies, small children and teens 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. I found a discussion not too long ago that I’ve wanted to share here. I’m paraphrasing the post so as to protect both the discussion board (well-known) and the original poster (who struck me as an entirely good mother, just depleted beyond her own resources).

My 12 year old son told me he hates homeschool. I’ve organized his work so that he really doesn’t have that much to do. He writes narrations for his novel, history and science, but I rotate these so he doesn’t have to do them all every day. He has a couple of pages of math on top of these. He is reading two books (one for history and one for literature) and we work through grammar daily. I even dropped spelling and now give him a break in the mornings so he doesn’t have to work straight through to lunch. If he would just sit down and do his work, he’d easily be done before lunch. Instead, he dawdles, doodles, complains, plays with the dog, gets up to go to the bathroom. He won’t just work straight through.

I feel terrible. I keep telling him he has to have an education, that the law requires it, that I have tried to be lenient. But when I see him so miserable, I feel so badly. I cried over my soup the other day at lunch. I thought homeschooling was supposed to be a happy time of learning. It’s not in our house. What would you do?

The responses were startling, to say the least. Before I read them, I wanted to offer hugs, hot tea, and chocolate. I wanted to tell this sweet mom to get out of the house and take the whole family to see the Disney film “Enchanted.” I also had a few other thoughts, but I made the mistake of perusing the collection of replies to her cry for help which blew me away. Here are some nuggets taken from that threaded discussion (again paraphrased):

  • My husband gets up and goes to work every day. He doesn’t necessarily like his job, but he does it without complaining. Your son needs to be reminded that life isn’t all fun and games and that like his father, it’s his job to do his schoolwork even if he’s unhappy about it.
  • I used to feel badly when my older three complained about school. Now that we’ve been at it for awhile, I no longer feel sad when they tell me they hate it. It’s not my job to make them happy. It’s my job to give them an education. They have the choice to be happy or not.
  • You need to tell him that his playing on the computer or gaming time will be related to his attitude in how he does his work. If he complains, he gets less time for entertainment. My kids shaped right up when they knew their leisure time was at risk.
  • Walk out of the room. Tell him that you will be happy to help him with school if he has a good attitude. If not, you will leave him to himself.
  • Give him more work. Perhaps he’ll see that he had it pretty easy and will then appreciate what you’ve done for him.

The glaring omission in all of these replies: compassion. And while a couple of moms tried to insert a little of that gentler perspective into the discussion, there was no room for it. The louder, more forceful attitude offered to this mom: Don’t let your child’s unhappiness bug you. It’s his fault, not yours. Buck up, keep going and punish or reward him accordingly.

My oh my! I fantasized about this set of interactions but in a different context. How might it work if this were the situation?

Honey, I’m miserable. My life is overfull of commitments. I’ve got two sick kids, housework, meals to plan and prepare, the homeschooling to get done, soccer practice and dance rehearsals to take the other two kids to and the co-op class to design and teach. I’m exhausted, unhappy, and sick of being an at-home mom this week. I wish I could take a break.

What if your husband’s reply was something like this:

You knew when you had children that you would have hard days. You can choose to be cheerful about it. And if you didn’t spend time on the computer chatting to friends, you’d have more time to do the laundry and make good meals. Plus, who do you think is going to pick up your slack? Me? I’ve got a fulltime job. These kids need you, I need you and you just have to keep going. Anyway, I’m not interested in your feelings any more. When you have a good attitude, you can talk to me. Until then, I’m watching basketball.

A marriage like that leads pretty quickly to misery and divorce papers.

Love.

Love is the key ingredient to your homeschool. Not education, not requirements, not schedules, not curricula. You homeschool because you love the little human beings who hang with you all day, every day. You could toss them into school and have your days free. You could hire out the subjects to tutors (not a bad idea, if there is a subject you can’t teach) to avoid dealing with the struggle to learn that some kids go through. Instead, you have this “foolish” notion that you can do a better job not because you are more equipped, more prepared, more able. You do it because you know you love your kids better than anyone else.

That’s your secret ingredient, your secret weapon. When confronted with boredom, tears, unadulterated loathing, your job isn’t to will it away, hate on it back or ignore it. Your job is to enfold the child into your arms, accept that homeschool “sucks” for him right now and then shut up and listen. Ask good questions, brainstorm solutions, take a break, get out of the house, put away the math/writing/history for awhile, play a board game, make tea and eat scones, redecorate a bedroom…. change it up, become the source of shining love that your child depends on you to be.

Education is not the most important part of homeschooling. Love is.

Love has everything to do with it.

On Wednesday, I’ll post a blog entry that is devoted to the idea of listening, empathy and flexibility that will help you put your love into practical action steps.

Posted in Brave Writer Philosophy, General, Homeschool Advice | 16 Comments »

Viral Teatimes

“So we were sitting in Ryan’s bedroom and they kept asking me what homeschooling was like. All I could think to explain it was to talk about teatime,” Jacob, the now public schooled student, said to his friends. I laughed. Sometimes I think the only thing my kids will remember from homeschooling is teatime.

“They thought it was so cool that we got to eat treats during the day and drink tea. I told them we read poetry every time too. Ryan said, ‘What did you read? Beowulf?’ He smirked and looked over at Sarah, (nicknamed Jano), like ‘No way did they read Beowulf.’ I said to him, ‘Actually, yeah we did.’ And all he could say was, ‘Wow. Cool.'”

Apparently that was the trigger. The next thing you know, Jacob, Jano and Ryan were off to the supermarket to buy PG Tips to make tea. Unfortunately teatime in Ryan’s kitchen didn’t conjure the same atmosphere or success as ours. Jacob told me that his tea tasted like dirty water and I was the only person who could steep it till it was “just right”… Once sufficiently buttered up, he asked me, “Can Jano and Ryan come over on Saturday afternoon for a real teatime?”

And that’s what we did today. The kids all pitched in to clean up the family room, to set the table and to help make the vanilla cake. I made the tea and poured out.

The Bogarts all took turns reading poetry aloud to our new audience. Jano and Ryan flipped through a couple of poetry books, smiled through all the readings, but weren’t quite brave enough yet to jump into the rhyming fray. They sipped their tea and declared it good. Everyone loved the vanilla cake (a Trader Joe’s hit!).

Once finished, Jacob, Jano and Ryan moved to the family room where they played rock band for hours.

I washed up realizing that these public schooled kids had just caught the teatime bug. A happy infection.

Posted in General, Poetry Teatime | 3 Comments »

Friday Freewrite: When I grow up…

What do you think the world will be like when you are a grown up?

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Thank you notes

Writing thank you notesImage by eren {sea+prairie}

Hi Julie,

I’ve only just started reading my Writer’s Jungle so perhaps this question is already addressed somewhere in there.

How do I help my 10yo son improve his vocabulary choices while writing? He is a voracious reader and can comprehend vocabulary words way above grade level. However, pulling descriptive words out of him during writing is another story.

Here is how a recent session writing thank you notes went:

(Proofreading) “The (gift) is fun. You are very nice.”

Me: Hmmm…I think you can select words that pack a more descriptive punch. Let’s think of another word other than “fun”.

Him: Uhhh…okay, how about “good”?

Me: Well, “good” is also a bland word. Let’s think of the (gift). What words can you use to describe it?

Him: Fun. Good. Nice.

Me: Let’s do this…get the Synonym Finder and we will look up a new word.

Him: (Big Sigh, rolling eyes) NOOOOO! I want to use the word “fun”!

Me: Okay, let’s move on. How about finding a replacement for the word “nice”. (In my mind, I am thinking of words like “generous”, “thoughtful”, “kind”, etc.)

Him: Uhhhh….I can’t think of anything.

Me: You can’t think of anything?

Him: Okay, how about “good”?

And so on…

Help! Do you have any tips for me?

Thanks,
Linda

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Hi Linda!

Your request likely feels like a very big challenge to your son as he is not thinking in specifics but vague generalities.

The best thank you notes tell a little anecdote. So rather than asking him for a summary word, ask him about playing with the gift. What did he do the first time he played or did he have a big win or did he beat the computer or whatever?

Help him to remember the thing as it is used, not as it is described in terms of adjectives.

Fun is a great place to start. Now help him to show the fun he had (rather than summarizing it).

How about:

Thanks for the really fun gift! My brother and I played with it for four hours. I ________ until my brother tried to _________ and then right when I thought I would lose I __________ and whipped his butt.

Something like that.

The point is, don’t write about the gift in general. Try to put it in a specific context and the words will more likely come forth.

Also, words like generous, thoughtful, kind are parent words. Nice is a meaningless word. So perhaps you can help him to say what he really means:

I love that you knew to get me that gift because….

Or:

It’s so cool that you would buy me the thing I’ve been wanting forever…

That kind of thing rather than generalizations.

I hope that helps a bit!
Julie

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Hi Julie,

Your tips helped!

Here is his latest thank you:

Thank you for the Key Card Door Alarm. I rigged it to my drawer. I put my favorite Christmas presents in the drawer. Now they are safe from sneaky monkeys!

I love you very much!

What I love about it is that it captures a bit of his personality, which is what Brave Writer is all about!

Thanks, again!
Linda

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