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You know how sometimes you just “foist” your homeschool plans on your kids and then they look “deer-in-the-headlights” instead of thrilled?

For instance, you might be considering a shift in your history program. You’re off stage, doing your research, chatting online, reviewing a variety of theories of instruction and materials. You finally make the agonizing, expensive decision to purchase.

Monday morning comes. You present this new, unfamiliar program over breakfast with a face of enthusiasm: “Ta da!” Your kids? They wilt. All they see is more schoolwork that they have to learn how to do that they don’t yet see as important or interesting.

So what happens?

Your bubble of enthusiasm is immediately popped! You grow a garden of hurt feelings that your children didn’t appreciate all that work you put into making sure they have the exact right, wonderful, interesting program you found for them.

The thing is, though: you didn’t bring them along. They don’t know the hours you spent combing through discussion board archives. They don’t know the sleepless nights wondering how to afford this program. They don’t know how much work it took to convince your partner that this change was going to be worth it.

If you want them to care, prepare them! Dribble it out over time: “I’m noticing that we’re all pretty bored with our history program. I started looking around a bit for a new one. If you were to say what might make history less boring, what would you want to have in a program?” Or you could say, “I found this free download and I wanted you to give me your opinion about how it strikes you.”

When you include your kids a bit in the journey, they are more likely to at least accept the choice you make if not look forward to it!

You can do all of these acts with your kids. There are no extra credit points for surprising them.

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