
Homeschooling isn’t about perfection—it’s about connection, curiosity, and adapting to your family’s needs.
In this Brave Writer podcast episode (our 300th!), we revisit three core principles that have guided our approach through the years:
- honoring spontaneous self-expression by jotting down our children’s words,
- remembering there are no educational emergencies (kids learn at their own pace),
- and staying flexible by changing the topic or the context when resistance pops up.
When we let go of pressure and focus on our children’s interests, we create an environment where learning truly thrives.
Show Notes
If there’s one thing we’ve learned over years of supporting homeschooling families, it’s this: the secret to a thriving homeschool isn’t about having the perfect curriculum or checking every box. It’s about connection, curiosity, and adapting to the ever-changing landscape of family life and learning. With each season, we return again and again to a set of core principles that make home education both joyful and sustainable.
Jot It Down: The Power of Capturing Spontaneous Self-Expression
One of the most transformative practices we’ve seen in home education is what we call “jot it down.” At its heart, this practice is about catching your child in the act of spontaneous self-expression—those magical moments when a child shares an observation, tells a story, or explains an idea bubbling up from their world.
Rather than treating these outbursts as distractions or fleeting moments, we honor them by writing them down, word for word, as close as we can recall. We might use a notebook, a slip of paper, or even a whiteboard on the fridge. When we capture our children’s words, we’re telling them, “Your ideas matter. Your words are worth remembering.” This simple act validates their voice and allows them to see themselves as writers, long before they master penmanship or spelling. Over time, these little jottings become cherished keepsakes and a powerful tool for building confidence and literacy.
There Are No Educational Emergencies
Homeschooling can feel urgent. The pressure to keep up with school standards, meet testing requirements, or compare our children’s progress with others can create anxiety. But we stand by the principle that there are no educational emergencies. Children learn at different rates in different subjects, and our job isn’t to keep pace with anyone else’s timeline. Instead, we meet our kids exactly where they are—whether they’re racing ahead in one area or taking their time in another.
If a child struggles, it’s not a crisis; it’s information. It’s an invitation to adapt, to slow down, or to seek extra help if needed. Testing and evaluations can be helpful for insight, but they’re not a referendum on your child or your abilities as a home educator. When we lower the pressure, we make room for genuine growth, mastery, and the joy of learning.
Change the Topic, Change the Context
When we hit resistance—a child refusing to write, dreading math worksheets, or tuning out during history—it’s time to change something. Sometimes the answer is to change the context: make math a game, act out grammar concepts, or take learning outside. Other times, we change the topic: instead of writing about a history lesson, maybe your child writes about dinosaurs or video games. The skill—whether it’s writing, reading, or critical thinking—matters more than the specific subject. By honoring our children’s interests and experimenting with new approaches, we keep learning alive and meaningful.
The Homeschool Journey Is Ours to Create
At the end of the day, homeschooling is about creating a life of learning together. When we listen, adapt, and celebrate our children’s unique paths, we set the stage for not just academic achievement, but family connection and lifelong curiosity. Let’s give ourselves permission to slow down, change course, and delight in the little victories. That’s where the magic happens.
Resources
- Check out what Maestro Music is doing for homeschool families (and they’re offering a full month of free private lessons!)
- Brave Learner Home: https://bravewriter.com/brave-learner-home
- Fall class registration is open!
- Purchase Julie’s new book, Help! My Kid Hates Writing!
- Julie’s new author website: juliebogartwriter.com
- Subscribe to Julie’s Substack newsletters: Brave Learning with Julie Bogart and Julie Off Topic
- Try out our Brave Writer Practice Pages
- Learn more about the Brave Writer Literature & Mechanics programs
- Read all Brave Writer class descriptions
- Start a free trial of CTCmath.com to try the math program that’s sure to grab and keep your child’s attention
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- Website: melissawiley.com
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- Bluesky: @melissawiley.bsky.social
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