There’s no tactic that ensures a child will match a parent’s fantasy. There’s only love and trying, over and over—until the child knows they are loved, and the parent knows the child is a unique, wholly separate person.
If you missed Part One, here it is.
The Trying: every tip, trick, and attempt to grow your child into a kind, mature, responsible adult.
The Love: your pleasure and pride in your children.
Children Grow Away from You
Children grow away in fury, in peace, in their own way, at their own pace.
We send them into their futures with our favorite souvenirs:
- confidence,
- an education,
- kindness,
- diligence,
- a sense of humor,
- our beliefs,
- our hopes and dreams.
They sort through the gifts and purge the ones they don’t want. They keep the ones they value. They grab some you didn’t want for them.
They become their own people. You get to be their witnesses. You will try again and love them again in this new way.
And that’s how it is for everyone.
There’s only love and trying.
Those two are enough to get you (and your kids) all the way there.
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