Permission-Givers and Challengers

Permission-Givers and Challengers

There seem to be two ways to be in the world that inspire others: to be a permission-giver and to be a challenger.

Permission-givers help people know that where they find themselves right now is okay: that their intuition, their needs, their return to self (awareness, care, regard), their pain—all of these are valid and valuable.

Permission-givers offer rest from striving.

Challengers call people out of habit and complacency into a new sense of self. Challengers inspire people to aspire to goals that previously seemed impossible or too big.

Challengers offer energy for striving.

The best companions on life’s journey offer both. They know that sometimes it is better to wait and give comfort than to challenge, and other times it is better to support the despair and doubt while sticking with a practice or a change or an effort to make it to the end goal.

The biggest experiences in life benefit from permission and challenge, balanced back and forth.

The danger is to assume that when pain is present, there is only one way to address it. The trick is knowing when to give permission, and when to offer support to meet a challenge.

I’ve found that sometimes the only way to know which to offer is to test one or the other and see what happens.

Challenge can be greeted by complaint—that doesn’t mean it’s the wrong choice.

Permission can be greeted by relief—that doesn’t mean it’s the right choice.

I like to take a bird’s eye view of the situation and consider a bigger picture. Some of the aspects of that picture might be:

  • Rest and nutrition
  • The size of the goal
  • The pace of getting to the goal
  • Space for recovery and pleasure
  • The number of goals
  • Whose goal is it?
  • Changing the circumstances/environment

For instance, if you have a child who is struggling to read, a permission-giver may say,

“It will come in time. We’ll revisit this again in 6 months. Let’s listen to audio books.”

That may be perfect for your 6, 7 year old.

For your 8, 9 year old, the goal to read has become more important. The longer the child goes without reading, the more chances there are that the child feels like she’s failing or missing out on a universal experience.

A challenger might say,

“I see your struggle. I’m here to support you each day as we break this task into manageable increments. Let’s only work on reading after you’ve had a good breakfast, alone with me, for ten minutes per day. We’ll check it off on the calendar. We’ll get more help if we need it.”

The goal (reading) matters, and should not be abandoned. Permission to recover, to take time off, to feel frustrated—super important. Challenge to keep going, to have a companion on the journey, to adopt a practical strategy: also super important.

We want to toggle between these in home education and listen to our kids’ feedback, and always take it seriously.


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for Brave Writer Summer Online Writing Classes!

Head’s up! These classes are at the lowest prices they’ll be all year. If you’ve got your eye on any one of the classes listed in the summer session, nab it now. Tuition goes up in the fall.

We’ve got a slew of good classes available! Here’s the summer class schedule:

Comic Strip Capers
Jun 19 – Jul 14, 2017
Melissa Wiley

Write for Fun: Go Wild
Jun 26 – Jul 14, 2017
Karen O’Connor

Kidswrite Intermediate
Jul 3 – Aug 11, 2017
Samantha Burtner

Kidswrite Intermediate
Jul 3 – Aug 11, 2017
Joy Sherfey

Movie Club: Miyazaki
Jul 3 – Jul 28
Johannah Bogart

Fan Fiction
Jul 10 – Aug 4, 2017
Susanne Barrett

SAT/ACT Essay Class
Jul 10 – Aug 4, 2017
Jean Hall

Expository Essay Class: Exploratory & Persuasive
Jul 10 – Aug 18, 2017
Lora Fanning

Kidswrite Basic
Jul 10 – Aug 18, 2017
Deb Bell

Kidswrite Basic
Jul 10 – Aug 18, 2017
April Hensley

We’re excited to have you join us!

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Friday Freewrite: Dancing

Friday Freewrite

Imagine that, instead of walking or running, we danced everywhere we went. What might be the pros and cons to that?

New to freewriting? Check out our online guide.


Arrow/Boomerang SALE + Giveaway!

2017-18 Arrow/Boomerang Sale + Giveaway

A Big Book Bonanza just for you!

1. Big Book Giveaway

You could win ALL 10 of the Arrow or Boomerang books to go with your Arrow or Boomerang purchase in June. Details for the Giveaway are below.

2. A Sale in June

Brave Writer is pleased to announce that the 2017-2018 Arrow and Boomerang Collections are on sale for the entire month of June.

Arrow: $69.00 (regular price: $79.00)

Boomerang $89.00 (regular price: $99.00)

We’ve added a new feature to BOTH sets of guides: A list of Book Club activities and ideas to host your own Arrow and Boomerang parties!

Our brand new staff member, Mary Wilson (from the popular blog “Not Before 7“) is our party planner.

Mary Wilson

Mary will share her amazing tips and ideas for bringing these books to life AND she’ll be hosting a special Facebook Group for subscribers to both the Arrow and Boomerang.

PLUS the Arrow is being written this year by the incredible Melissa Wiley, children’s novelist!

Melissa Wiley


10 Issue Bundle Sale Runs June 1-30!

The Arrow (3rd-6th) and the Boomerang (7th-10th) are Brave Writer’s language arts tools (digital magazines) that teach

  • grammar,
  • spelling,
  • punctuation,
  • nine discussion questions,
  • a sheet of themed-party suggestions,
  • and literary elements using living literature (a la Charlotte Mason)

We pick books for you to read that represent a diversity of perspectives and writing genres to expand the horizons of your young charges. From those books, we select four passages for copywork and dictation, paired with easy to understand notes written in a conversational and engaging style.

Each issue publishes on the 1st of the month and will be available for download from a private folder on our Brave Writer Website.

Purchase the novels in our Amazon store.

One caveat: We are offering Arrow and Boomerang book clubs for ALL 20 titles (registration opens in July). If you decide you want your kids to be in our book discussion clubs, know that the issues of the Arrow and Boomerang are included for the price of the club.


We’re giving away 5 sets of 10 books!

Here’s your chance to win either the Arrow or Boomerang Book Collection for 2017-2018! We want you to have the books to go with your Arrow or Boomerang purchase.

To enter, simply fill out our form. For additional entries, share the contest with friends. So easy!

International Brave Writer fans can play too (if you win, we’ll send you a $100 Amazon gift card so you can buy the books yourself). No purchase necessary to play. Ends June 30, 2017. Winners will be announced July 3rd.

Enter the Giveaway


Blog Roundup: May 2017

Brave Writer Blog Roundup May 2017

Welcome to the latest blog roundup! See how other homeschooling families practice the Brave Writer Lifestyle!

The Value of Listening to Other Homeschooling Moms for Inspiration by Scissors and Glue

Today I wanted to talk about the value of listening to others who Homeschool, to gain inspiration and learning from one another. I have so many of you who I have met over this last year of homeschooling […] and it has really been a great way for me to feel ‘not alone in the cause’ of this huge undertaking of raising kids and learning at home […]. […] But, I wanted to share with you all, a wonderful inspiration I have just recently found on youtube. […] Her name is Brave Writer, Julie Bogart, from the USA and she has some really great, real and touching stories and tips for homeschooling.

Why Brave Writer is Such a Big Deal by Not the Former Things

I read something about Brave Writer almost every day. Blog posts, Instagram, Email marketing, and Facebook have been screaming at me about this program for over a year now. […] Brave Writer is everywhere in the small world of educating my two boys. And yet I have resisted learning about it. […] Here’s the thing. I was wrong.

Creating a Rich Writing Experience in Our Homeschool by Intentional Homeschooling

I’m honestly not sure if one can be involved in the homeschool community in any way online without quickly hearing about Brave Writer. If you read around homeschool blogs for more than five minutes you are going to hear about someone raving about Julie and Brave Writer. And for good reason.

Shakespeare in the Spring: The Ultimate Guide to Teaching Shakespeare by Hide the Chocolate

Are you a Fen-sucked Dull-Eyed Canker-blossom? Do you know how many sonnets the Bard wrote, or which phrases we use that he coined? Have you any idea what an oxlip looks like? If you’re curious about answering any of these questions, then this Ultimate Guide to Teaching Shakespeare might be for you!

Spring Time Poetry Teatime: Featuring Poems for Two Voices by Hide the Chocolate

For the last year, a small group of homeschoolers has been meeting at our local library for Poetry Teatime. Each month we have a theme, tea, snacks, a poetry activity, and most importantly, sharing of poems. This month our theme was Spring Time. The children were encouraged to bring poems that celebrated Spring. These could be original works or by celebrated authors or even by not so celebrated authors…whatever took their fancy.

The Prairie Thief Book Club: A Party School with a Treasure Hunt by Hide the Chocolate

A gnome-like Brownie, a chocolate brownie, a hunt for stolen treasures and spider-laden soup were all part of this month’s party school, The Prairie Thief Book Club.

We hope to share more roundups in the future! If you write about an aspect of the Brave Writer Lifestyle, let us know! Email your post’s url to Jeannette, our Social Media admin (blog@bravewriter.com). Thanks!

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