Comments on: They never change. Ever.

By: Michelle O

Michelle O — Fri, 11 Apr 2008 21:53:27 +0000

I’ll just add my Wow! You said it in an amazing manner.

By: Galen Roll

Galen Roll — Fri, 11 Apr 2008 16:56:13 +0000

Wow. What a powerful and honest piece. This post is beautiful in it’s deep reach, an exposure of your journey with your beloved first child.
What comes up for me in response to this piece?
We cannot control nature, inner or outer–only interact with it, and the choices of HOW to interact are so personal, and crucial, and evolve. Though some of our choices are informed by deep habit, or sometimes “strategies” we’ve read about to get a behavior to happen, and we can go deeper, using our creativity, thinking and love to learn and choose new ways…I can choose the stance of appreciating and trying to understand my child. This choice might also open a reciprocal path, as I ask for understanding…
The grandest petri dish for culturing new ways, informed by love…the family.
Thank you, Julie, for reaching so deep, and offering us this beautiful piece. I can feel and hear all the real experiences, struggles, acceptance and celebration of your son, behind it…and it will stay with me,
Galen

By: Rachel

Rachel — Fri, 11 Apr 2008 13:01:05 +0000

Wow! Excellent. I love this post and the nature vs. nurture theme. I have such a difficult time nurturing the child in my family who goes against my nature. It’s a real challenge to find the strengths and honor them when they are not the strengths I naturally find and want in my child! Your title of “They never change. Ever.” helps me to remember to love and honor each of them for their unique qualities and slow down enough to really listen to who they are and what they are saying rather than quickly add the biting, stinging words which far too often rush out of my lips from a sense of fear I have as a mother. I think I will do some copywork today to post and reflect on from your blog. Thanks.
~Rachel in NH